Compliments of IANDS

I Was Shown How Illnesses Start on an Energetic Level
I had cancer (Hodgkin's Lymphoma) and one morning I could not move. My husband rushed me to the hospital where after doing scans they diagnosed me with grade 4B lymphoma (the highest grade). The senior oncologist looked at my report and told my husband that it was too late and that my organs were shutting down. I only had 36 hours to live. However, the oncologist said he would do whatever he could but prepared my husband that I would most likely not make it, as my organs were no longer functioning. They started me on a chemotherapy drip as well as oxygen and took tests, particularly on my organ functions, to determine what drugs to use.

I was drifting in and out of consciousness during this time and I could feel my spirit actually leaving my body. I saw and heard the conversations between my husband and the doctors taking place outside my room, about 40 feet away and down a hallway. I was later able to verify this conversation to my shocked husband. Then I actually crossed over to another dimension where I was engulfed in a total feeling of love. I also experienced extreme clarity of why I had the cancer, why I had come into this life in the first place, what role everyone in my family played in my life in the grand scheme of things, and generally how life works.

The clarity and understanding I obtained in this state is almost indescribable. Words seem to limit the experience - I was at a place where I understood how much more there is than what we are able to conceive in our 3-dimensional world. I realized what a gift life is and that I was surrounded by loving spiritual beings who were always around me even when I did not know it.

The amount of love I felt was overwhelming and from this perspective I knew my powerful nature and saw the amazing possibilities we as humans are capable of achieving during a physical life. I found out that my purpose now would be to live heaven on earth using this new understanding and also to share this knowledge with other people.

However, I had the choice of whether to come back into life or go toward death. I was made to understand that it was not my time but I always had the choice, and if I chose death, I would not be experiencing a lot of the gifts that the rest of my life still held in store. One of the things I wanted to know was that if I chose life, would I have to come back to this sick body because my body was very, very sick and the organs had stopped functioning. I was then made to understand that if I chose life, my body would heal very quickly. I would see a difference in not months or weeks, but days!

I was shown how illnesses start on an energetic level before they become physical. If I chose to go into life, the cancer would be gone from my energy, and my physical body would catch up very quickly. I then understood that when people have medical treatments for illnesses, it rids the illness only from their body but not from their energy so the illness returns. I realized if I went back, it would be with a very healthy energy. Then the physical body would catch up to the energetic conditions very quickly and permanently. I was given the understanding that this applies to anything, not only illnesses - physical conditions, psychological conditions, etc.

I was shown that everything going on in our lives was dependant on this energy around us, created by us. Nothing was solid. We created our surroundings, our conditions, etc., depending on this energy. The clarity I received around how we get what we do was phenomenal! It's all about where we are energetically. I was made to feel that I was going to see proof of this first hand if I returned back to my body.

I knew I was drifting in and out, between the two worlds but every time I drifted into the other side I was shown more and more scenes. One scene showed how my life had touched all the people in it. It was sort of like a tapestry and showed how I affected everyone's lives around me. Another scene showed my brother on a plane having heard the news I was dying and coming to see me. (This was verified to me when I started to come round and my brother was there, having just got off a plane).

I also saw a glimpse of my brother and I. Some how I understood it was a previous life, where I was much older than him and like a mother. (In this life, he is older than me).

In that life I was protective of him. I suddenly became aware he was on the plane to come and see me and felt "I can't do this to him - can't let him come and see me dead." Then I saw how my husband's purpose was linked to mine and how we had decided to come and experience this life together. If I died, he would probably follow soon after.

I was made to understand this during the tests of my organ functions. The results were not back yet. If I chose life, the results would show that my organs were functioning normally. If I chose death, the results would show organ failure as the cause of death due to cancer. I was able to change the outcome of the tests by my choice. I made my choice.

As I started to wake up, in a very confused state, I could not at that time tell which side of the veil I was on. The doctors came rushing into the room with big smiles on their faces saying to my family "Good news, we got the results and her organs are fnctioning. We can't believe it. Her body really did seem like it had shut down."

After that, I began to recover rapidly. The doctors had been waiting for me to become stable before doing a lymph node biopsy to track the type of cancer cells. They could not even find a lymph node big enough to suggest cancer. Upon entering the hospital my body was filled with swollen lymph nodes. They did a bone marrow biopsy again to find the cancer activity so they could adjust the chemotherapy according to the disease and there wasn't any in the bone marrow.

The doctors were very confused but put it down as a sudden response to the chemo. Because they themselves were unable to understand what was going on, they made me undergo test after test, all of which I passed with flying colors and clearing every test empowered me even more. I had a full body scan and because they could not find anything, they made the radiologist repeat it again.

Because of my experience, I am now sharing with everyone I know that miracles are possible in your life every day. After what I have seen, I realize that absolutely anything is possible and that we did not come here to suffer. Life is supposed to be great and we are very, very loved. The way I look at life has changed dramatically and I am so glad to have been given a second chance to experience heaven on earth.

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I started getting these bits of advice for SINGLE MEN because, I presume, my name sounds like a boy's or man's name: Tommye. I pass them on to my son-in-law; yes, he's married, but I figured he might pick up something, too. Not, I tell him, that he is not perfect!

David DeAngelo's Advice for Single (AND MARRIED *My insertion) Men

Why You Should NOT Compliment A Woman

This time I'm going to include an email that I
got from a WOMAN. Now, I get a lot of email from
female readers, and I include a lot of it in my
"Mailbags"... but this particular email just stuck
out, and I think that we can all learn something
important from it.

Keep reading, because this gets interesting...

COMPLIMENTS OR NO COMPLIMENTS?

To compliment or not to compliment... that is
the question.

Women tell us they want us to compliment them.

Your mom told you to be nice to girls, right?

And we guys like to really "turn up" the
compliments when we LIKE a woman...

But here's the question:

Do compliments create ATTRACTION when you first
meet a woman?

Most of the time the answer is NO.

I have a word for guys who like to give women
lots of compliments when they first meet her.

That word is WUSSY.

Recently, I got an email from a woman about
this very topic that I thought would be the
perfect way to introduce this and explain WHY
compliments are not the way to build attraction...

***QUESTION FROM A READER***

I agree that your "funny/cocky" routine works very
well and women are attracted to it. Yet, I have to
disagree with you on one aspect, women LOVE to be
complimented. They live for it. Why else, but to
get men's attention and be complimented, do they
spend hours getting ready, and buy all that sexy
clothing? Sure, their faces light up when you make
them laugh or they really have fun. But, how many
times have you seen that special girl smile at you
and kiss you like there's no tomorrow when you
tell her she's the most incredible thing in the
world and that she's so beautiful you just can't
stop loving her? Probably never, because you think
that's a "wuss" thing to do. But, you don't know
how wrong you are.

J.

>>>MY COMMENTS

I love that women are out there reading and
thinking about my material (especially the Cocky &
Funny comment). Good stuff.

I'm going to break down the things you're
talking about into a few specific topics, then
address them individually.

Here are the three that I'd like to address:

1) The idea that women LOVE to be complimented.

2) The idea that women spend all of their time and
energy getting ready and fixing themselves up
because they want compliments.

3) The difference between complimenting a
"special" girl and complimenting just ANY girl.

Here are a few things to keep in mind as you
read my commentary on this letter and these
different topics:

A) We humans (and I'm talking about women in
particular here) don't always REALIZE what we
REALLY want.

B) We humans don't like to admit what's REALLY
going on inside of us, because it can be
irrational and illogical.

C) It's very important to realize that there is a
CRITICAL difference between a girl you've just met
or have dated a few times and a SPECIAL girl in
your life.

So, let's talk about the topics individually...

THE IDEA THAT WOMEN LOVE TO BE COMPLIMENTED

Do women love to be complimented?

I think so.

In fact, I think that many really ATTRACTIVE
women FEED off of attention and compliments. The
more attention and compliments they get, the
better and more powerful they feel. It's an ego
boost.

BUT... and it's a BUTTTTT bigger than J-Lo's,
this doesn't mean that a woman will feel ATTRACTED
to you if you give her compliments.

Attractive women get compliments in various
forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to
getting compliments, that's what they EXPECT.

As a matter of fact, if you start talking to an
attractive woman and say, "Wow, you're really
beautiful. I mean, you're like a goddess... are
you a model or an actress?" etc., the most LIKELY
response you're going to get is her giving you the
cold shoulder.

Why?

Because SHE GOT WHAT SHE NEEDED FROM YOU and
you showed her that you're JUST LIKE EVERY OTHER
guy out there that will worship her for her
physical beauty.

As a general rule, you ALWAYS want to avoid
being mentally slotted into the "average" and
"like all the other guys" category at ALL COST.

I have started conversations by giving a woman
a compliment, but I NEVER let it become part of
the actual conversation. If anything, I begin
teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as
possible, if she's REALLY hot-looking. And I never
give the compliment in a way that says, "I'm
intimidated because you're obviously very powerful
and desirable."

NOTE: If you want to learn how to master the
art of "busting" on women and using teasing and
cocky humor to create ATTRACTION, then you should
go here and check THIS out (make sure you watch
the videos):

http://www.DoubleYourDates.com/CockyComedy

On to idea #2...

WOMEN SPEND ALL OF THEIR TIME AND ENERGY GETTING
READY, FIXING THEMSELVES UP, AND DRESSING SEXY TO
GET COMPLIMENTS

About 4 or 5 years ago when I was first
learning about how to be successful with women, a
good friend of mine said something that totally
shocked me.

He said, "Women don't dress up for men, they
dress up for each other."

I was stunned.

I couldn't understand the logic behind this for
the life of me. It still makes me shake my head
when I think about it.

As it happens, I have lived in Southern
California for a few years (San Diego and Los
Angeles). This is a place where beautiful women
from all over the world come to seek fame and
fortune.

I have been able to see things and learn things
here that would have taken much longer to learn if
I had lived in other places, because I can see how
attractive women interact with EACH OTHER more
often.

If you put a group of attractive women together
in a club or bar, and watch them carefully, you'll
see something interesting begin to happen...

The women will start doing "catty" things, like
looking each other up and down with disgusted
looks, making negative comments to their friends
about how other women look, and trying to
intimidate other women with their eyes.

Most men would never notice this subtle
communication that's going on between women, but
if you look for it, you'll find it.

The fact is that women don't like to compete
with each other on the football field, they
compete to be the most attractive.

Men could really care less what a woman is
wearing or how she's dressed for the most part.
Sure, it's nice to see a woman dressed well, but
it's just not that important.

But for women it's a whole different matter
entirely.

Women, and especially attractive women, don't
like the idea that another woman is getting more
attention than her. And women can tell very
quickly if another woman is more attractive...
this leads to "bitch looks", negative comments,
and other amazing displays.

To summarize, women don't spend a lot of time
fixing themselves up to get compliments, they do
it to compete with and impress other women. Ask a
few attractive, well-dressed women about this and
they'll tell you.

Finally, point #3...

THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN COMPLIMENTING A GIRL YOU
DON'T KNOW VERY WELL AND A "SPECIAL" GIRL

My topic is women and dating.

WOMEN AND DATING.

It's not "women you're in a relationship with"
or "special girls" or anything of the sort.

After you've gone out with a woman for a few
months or so, and she proves to you beyond the
shadow of a doubt that she's a great PERSON, then
I think it's great to consider making her your
"special girl."

And yes, the dynamics change at that point. You
can be nicer... you can be more complimentary...
you can do more thoughtful things... At this stage
this kind of thing will have a different meaning
(BUT, DON'T EVER TURN INTO A WUSSY!)

As I mentioned, if you start talking to an
attractive woman and you immediately start with
the "You are beautiful and I'm not worthy"
routine, you shoot yourself in the foot.

There's a HUGE opportunity in these first
meeting situations, but most guys never even
CONSIDER it because it's not what comes naturally.

The thing to do when you meet an attractive
woman is to actually TEASE AND BUST on her a bit,
rather than giving her compliments.

This effectively scrambles her whole program
and causes her to lose her composure. It takes her
off guard and shakes her out of her world... so
you can actually have a conversation.

Remember the newsletter awhile back with the
guy who walks up to women and says, "Your fly is
open", then walks away?

The woman always comes and finds him to say,
"You're a JERK!"... and then he laughs at her...
and the woman winds up going out with him.

Verrrrrry interesting.

Do you think it would work the same way if he
walked up to women and said, "You're amazingly
beautiful" and then walked away?

I think not.

So in summary, it's true... women do in fact
like compliments. But, if you want to make a woman
feel that magical feeling of ATTRACTION for you,
then you might think twice about giving them too
early on.

Women like compliments that they have to WORK
FOR a lot more than the ones that just come to
them.

...and if you're reading this right now and
thinking to yourself, "You know, I need to learn
this stuff about how to meet and attract women so
I can get rid of that insecure and fearful feeling
I have", then YOU'RE RIGHT!

I think that every man should invest in himself
and learn this skill.

Unfortunately, most guys never take the time
and invest in themselves... and they wind up going
their whole lives WISHING that they could attract
the kinds of women that they want.

Well, I used to be one of the guys who didn't
know what he was doing with women. Now I'm one of
the guys who can go out anytime, in any situation
and attract women.

What's the difference?

I TOOK THE TIME TO LEARN.

And if you'd like to learn, then I recommend
you learn the things that I learned FIRST.

It's taken me a long time to figure all this
stuff out and it's also taken a lot of time,
effort and energy on my part to put it all down on
paper, and on audio and video... so that any guy
can learn from the things I've discovered.

I'd like to personally invite you to check out
my materials. In a matter of hours you can learn
things that took me YEARS to figure out... all
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My Advanced Dating Techniques CD/DVD Program
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You can check out the details of that program
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clips as well:

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If you tend to give compliments because you are
looking for APPROVAL from women, I recommend that
you check out my program DEEP INNER GAME.

It condenses a hundred years of concepts from
psychology, behavior, and inner change... and then
focuses and interprets all of this wisdom... and
gives you a step-by- step, fool-proof system for
overcoming inner challenges, dealing with fears,
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image.

There is truly nothing else like this program
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David DeAngelo's Advice for Single Men



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