Eloheim

My daughter send me a video, "The Now leads to Bliss." She is so new age I call her a child of the unbirthed age. No, she corrects me, a child of the "now birthing age."

Anyway, watched it and it was elucidating, pointing out our tendency to call a thing either good or bad, to box our experiences in, thereby setting ourselves up to 1) experience stress as we anticipate which it will be; 2) experience disappointed about half the time with outcomes, so we experience the bad or failure and the emotional upheaval of the bad half of our lives.

Rather, the Eloheim points out, we can put ourselves in a state of bliss whereby we do not give outcomes the power to control our experiences. If the Patriots lose, then, it is not bad but just a happening. If your daughter fails algebra, again, it is just a happening and you are presented with an opportunity to explore with her why's of the event itself rather than engendering in both you and she a sense of failure.

There is, in other words, an opportunity for growth in every experience of any import if we do not box the experience in and thereby cut off all exploration. Spill a pot of soup on the floor? Bad experience? Or an opportunity to clean the floor, to try a new quick recipe for dinner, to look at why we were so anxious and hurried that we spilled the soup, and on and on. So, we can call it good or call it bad or call our state a state of bliss, a state wherein we accept events in our lives and the lives of those we love and explore them rather than boxing them in, labeling them either good or bad. Happiness is not lasting. Pain is not lasting (although at its origin it certainly seems to be). Bliss, however, the willingness to accept what life deals us and to learn from the experiences rather than boxing them into the good or bad category, is lasting, Eloheim points out.

I am not sure I conveyed accurately what the video conveyed. You might google it and I think you will gain from it - I certainly did.